But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.
John 14:26 NKJV 

There is a great deal of teaching available today about how to be healed from the hurtful memories of the past. These teachings are helpful and valid. I personally have needed healing from hurtful memories. However, equally important are the good memories to help us walk through times of grief. Good memories are powerful tools to heal our lives.

If you have ever suffered the loss of a loved one, then you know the deep sense of grief that comes with their death. The deeper I have loved them, the deeper my grief. I have also noticed that in my most vulnerable moment, when the loss is consuming my thoughts, one small glimpse of a good memory can turn my tears into laughter. Then the joy of the relationship once again fills my heart.

My dad was a fun-loving, gentle giant of a man. Although he was tall in stature, he had a tender heart. I can still remember when he would correct me. Although he might have become upset, he would start his correction by saying, “Now shoog (short for sugar), you know that wasn’t the best decision!” He was so kind. He loved life. As a little girl, I can still remember his laughter. He loved to laugh. He was also a generous man. I watched him bless those in need all the time. He loved to give. When I was on my honeymoon, the hotel manager called and said that someone had paid for another night if we would like to stay. I knew it was my dad. It was the little things that made him who he was.

In the days following his death, all the memories of my life with him came flooding back. Although those memories made me miss him even more, they also began to bring gratitude into my heart. I am a better person for having known him. Sometimes I can still hear his voice and feel his influence in my life. My memories of him have helped me push through my grief.

Grieving a loss is the only way to heal from it. Pushing the memories or pain to the side only prolongs the process. So when the pain of your loss begins to smother you, ask the Holy Spirit to bring the good memories to your mind. Thank the Lord for the good times and let the power of those memories bring healing to your heart. 

Make Your Mark
Thank the Lord for His blessings. Remember and cherish the good times, especially when you are in a time of grieving. If your good memories are few and far between, then today is a good day to make a new memory with those you love.