When I think about making a mark in my home, I immediately think of a statement our very own Pastor Debbie said: “My ministry at home gives me the platform for all other ministry opportunities. If I don’t do ministry at home well, no one should listen to me.” 

I will never forget that statement or the impact it has made on my life. Truthfully, if it were up to my flesh to decide, I would pursue my wants and needs above my family. The statement “The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak” has never been more true than when faced with the choice of either staying in my pajamas all day and eating chocolate or making healthy choices and taking care of my family. Don’t get me wrong—a pajama and chocolate day isn’t bad every once in a while, but not as a lifestyle.

As I asked God to teach me how to make a mark in my home and put my family first, He showed me that just as our physical heart has four chambers, so does our spiritual heart. He gave me a road map through the heart that, when used daily, will create an atmosphere of peace, joy, and abundant blessings in our home. 

We are the heartbeat of our home, and if we will stay healthy in the following four areas, our heart and home will be blessed:

The first chamber of our spiritual heart is beginning each day by submitting it to the Lord and His will. Submit to the Lord daily, and out of that flows submission to your role as a wife and mom. God created us to be a helpmate to our husbands. Helpmate literally means “companion and helper.” This is our first and highest call in life. Helpmate is not a weak, lowly position. It is powerful and anointed. Satan tempted Eve, not Adam. He knows if he can bring the woman down, the entire family goes with her. If we don’t submit our hearts daily, we will grow idols in our lives that lead us away from our call and our family.

The second chamber of our spiritual heart is to have a servant’s heart. Jesus Himself did not come to be served but to serve and give His life as a ransom for many (Mark 10:45). Faith is obedience over comfort. God will ask you to do something out of obedience but will not always tell you the fruits you will see. Love says, “How can I propel you?” not “What’s in it for me?”

The third chamber of our spiritual heart is to be a good steward of our heart and home. Matthew 25:21 (NLT) says, “The master was full of praise. ‘Well done, my good and faithful servant. You have been faithful in handling this small amount, so now I will give you many more responsibilities. Let’s celebrate together!’”

If I don’t steward my family well when my platform is small, why would I steward it well when my platform grows? God is testing our character to see if we can be trusted with more territory. God will not sacrifice my family for the sake of another person or ministry; this is prideful thinking. God does not need us, but He chooses us.

Matthew 6:21 says, “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Where is your heart? Is it wishing and hoping to be anywhere but home? Perhaps it is time we realign our treasure to be in our home and our heart will follow.

The fourth and final chamber of our spiritual heart is to stay in a place of surrender to the Lord.

Would you like to be confident and fearless? Job 11:13–15 (CEV) has some great wisdom on this: “Surrender your heart to God, turn to him in prayer, and give up your sins—even those you do in secret. Then you won’t be ashamed; you will be confident and fearless.”

When we submit, we “give in,” keeping the focus on ourselves. However, when we surrender, we “give up,” putting the focus where it belongs: on God. Jesus decided to go beyond submission to the reality He was facing—He surrendered fully to the Father and put everything into His hands.

Ladies, please hear me when I say that these four chambers are not just a cute way of remembering how to steward your heart and home, but instead, they are a fierce and violent way to keep the enemy out of your heart and home. My household is living proof of these principles, and I promise God’s Word will not return null or void in this area of your life. 

Take a moment today to ask the Lord a few simple questions in regards to your spiritual heart health:

1. Lord, search my heart. Is there anything in my life that is coming between me and my family? 

2. Lord, what are some practical ways I can serve my family today? Give me a servant’s heart.

3. Lord, how can I be a better steward of the resources You have given me? How can I better steward those who are at my table?

4. Lord, I surrender my all to You. Show me any areas that I have not yet surrendered.



Rachael Gilbert is a former Oklahoman turned Texan by her husband, homeschooling momma of 3, business owner, blogger & founder of First Fruit Fitness. She loves Jesus and likes to run Spartans & marathons with her husband. She is passionate about seeing women walk in freedom in all areas of their lives! Nothing brings her more joy then calling the gold out of women and inspiring them to walk confidently in their God-given destiny. You can follow her at www.rachaelgilbert.com